Post 44: Friends and Parenting

I'm spoiled. Let's face it, it is true. I may not feel spoiled in my cramped bedroom. But, in the grand scheme of things, I am quite well off. I am in University, and my mom is still letting me live at home. She is even paying my phone bill while I am a full-time student. I pay for University, books and supplies as well, but just because it comes out of my bank account doesn't mean that my parent's money didn't go into my account first.

And, really looking at my Apple products alone in it is hard to claim I am anything but spoiled.

iPhone? Check. iPad? Check. iPod touch? Check. iPod Classic? Check. iPod shuffle? Double check.

True, I did buy one shuffle, and win the other. I did buy my iPod classic, but only as a replacement to one I was given. And all of that was with money I earned while working. However, the rest? They were Christmas or Birthday gifts.

But that being said, I don't think that I am spoiled rotten.

Though, I think I know some people who are. I say "I think", because I am not omniscient. I do not know all the sides to the story. I do not know everything that goes on in their lives, but from what I do know it does not paint a pleasing picture.

 (I am about to go off on a little tangent, it will come back around to something that makes sense in the end though, I assure you.)

Before I get too far into talking about people who have been spoiled kind of rotten, I want to talk a little bit about how sad it is when friends change. The friend I am going to use for the example, who isn't really a friend anymore, is a good example of friends that change dramatically, as well.

She used to be a tomboy. It was shocking if she wore a skirt. She isn't one anymore. Which would be fine, but it seems like the entire time she was acting like tomboy, it wasn't because that was who she was or what she liked, but rather that she didn't feel like she was pretty enough not to be a tomboy. I mean, she used to not really like having her picture taken. She was really shy, as well. Now she is not shy, and she loves having her picture taken. It wasn't just her looks that changed. It was her attitude. She seems almost stuck-up now. She just isn't the same person that I became friends with. And I could probably be friends with who she is now, but part of me is having trouble accepting such a drastic change. I am having trouble reconciling that the person I knew before and the person she is now are one and the same.

Anyway, she has also been acting kind of spoiled lately. For example, she recently bought a puppy and brought it home. Not bad in and of itself, unless you taken in to consideration that her dad said no. He has also ended up feeding it, cleaning up after, and taking care of it, even though he said no pets. Oh, yes, and did I mention that when he yelled at her for bringing it home, she yelled at him? She yelled at him! She is living in the house off of him, and she went against what he told her, and she was yelling at him. And apparently, cursing at him and insulting him as well.

I have another example, I can't talk too much about because it was a long while ago andI had even forgotten about it until I was reading a blog I had kept years ago. 

Basically, there is a guy and he has practice for a sport he is in from like 6 until 9 p.m. His mom orders dinner for him. There is an issue with her card, but her phone is dead and she doesn't know that the food wasn't ordered. He freaks out. Calls everyone they know. Then when the mom gets home and finds out what happened, she gets yelled at and accused of being a bad parent by her kid. 

Which is kind of ridiculous because there is always food in their house. Always. And to be totally honest, I don't think I have ever been to anyone's house and found that they actually had nothing to eat. It wasn't like he was going to starve. He just didn't want to cook. 

And since the mom didn't even know, and had no way of knowing, what was wrong- it wasn't her fault. Not to mention, even if it was, kids should not yell at their parents. 

My mom and I get into fights, yes. I talk back, more than I should, but I have only ever actually yelled at her once, as far as I can recall. And it was when she implied some things about some of my friends that were neither kind nor true. Though, perhaps they were not all that far from the truth, seeing how things have unfolded as time went on. 

It didn't go over well. And even then, I neither cursed at her or called her names.

Anyway, I feel like I haven't really gotten to where I wanted to with this post. But it is starting to get on the longer side, and I stopped and started again after some time had passed and I don't really remember where it is that I wanted to go. 

So, I think I will end it here. 

Do you know anyone that is spoiled rotten?

What do you think it means to be spoiled?