"Let's meet at noon instead of 11." "We'll be home closer to 8 than 7." "I can't give you a ride."
All good things to actually say, rather than assume someone knows. This might go a little past pet peeve level. But, it depends on the situation too.
Recently I made plans to meet a couple people for one of my classes to study. One of them canceled, which was fine. The other didn't. So, I showed up at the time we were set to meet. When I got there I waited. And waited. Ten minutes after the time we were supposed to meet, I sent her a message asking where she was. Ten minutes later I got a text that said she was at the mall, that she had to pick something up but would be at school soon.
Basically, she decided to change her plans and not tell me. I would have been totally fine with meeting later. I could have blogged, I could have gotten coffee, etc. But instead, I rushed to get a table so we would have a place to work. And I waited there instead of getting food so we didn't lose the table.
It was only half hour really that went to waste. But it still annoys me that she didn't just tell me.
This came up again not that long ago. My step-sister and I each have a night where we are supposed to make dinner.
So, I expect to make dinner and usually ask about a time to have it ready.
Of course, plans change and suddenly no one will be home for dinner, only one person, dinner will be later, someone is running late, etc. But I don't get told.
Which is frustrating. When you spend an hour cooking dinner even though you have other stuff to do, only to realize you will be the only person home. It is really frustrating.
I kind of get that sometimes people don't want to say that plans have changed. Especially if they promised to do something for someone, but then can't, but it is better to tell them rather than to just not do it.
I can adapt to change, I can't deal with making plans and then having people flake out.
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